Showing posts with label Change. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Change. Show all posts

Monday, June 15, 2020

From where I sit...


#thenewblue

No, folks, nobody is going to “de-fund” Police Departments across the Nation. That is just not going to happen. Someone thought it would be appropriate, given our collective turmoil, to use the word “de-fund” throwing more fuel on fire. That needs to be corrected.

Could we try the term “re-fund the Police”? That more closely describes what is being proposed. By using this new terminology, I am talking of bringing Law Enforcement back to what it was meant for. The jobs the Police are tasked with in too many cases are jobs that were never meant for them to handle. Police are not mental health professionals, social workers, family counselors, Doctors, EMTs, etc. Their only job is to enforce the laws of the land in an effort to keep communities safe from the bad guys.

Why has our society overburdened Police with tasks no one else seems to want to do? Let’s rearrange the deck chairs and give our Police a chance at doing the jobs they were originally tasked with. This would change the culture of Police Departments and erase the overburdening of a very valuable asset; our Police. There is way too much tension and mistrust in all quarters by all people. We can start by reforming the biggest hurdle first. The Police Unions are the driving force behind all this “militarizing” of the Police. These Union “leaders” have to learn their place and join the team effort in “re-forming” all Departments. This task is not rocket science.

Being from New York, I get too many chances to listen to Pat Lynch, the New York City PBA Union President. You only have to hear his oral diarrhea once to realize where the Police culture is right now. And, how Union heads all over the Country are constantly pushing toward that goal on militarization. It will not be an easy task to dismantle that culture; it has been with us for decades. I am not convinced that it takes 38,000 police to keep law and order in New York City. I am not convinced that any local police force needs to add combat vehicles to their motor pools.

           

There are many Veterans applying and being accepted by Law Enforcement. I know that police departments do not screen applicants thoroughly for substance abuse and mental health problems brought home from the battlefield. On the other side of that coin, the recent applicants who suffer from combat PTSD, TBI, substance abuse, and other unseen mental health problems tend not to seek treatment. If they did, they would never qualify for a police position, let alone carry a weapon. Therefore, they remain silent and fiercely deny any problems in those areas.

It is above my pay grade to dive deeper into the details of “re-funding” the Police. There are many people who know how to work out the details far better than I could even imagine. I do know that some people will raise the age-old excuse; “it’s too complicated”. No, it is not complicated. It does get complex. Complex we can do by solving issues one at a time. We, as a Nation, are good at doing that!

With our pride and love for this Nation,
we can all get behind this concept and make it reality.
Yes, we can give peace a chance; at home first!

Saturday, December 13, 2014

Change is good.

I used to be of the mind that change was something undertaken as a last resort, when nothing else seemed to be working. I am glad to report I have a different point of view on this subject, now. Yes, I have changed my thinking on this whole matter of change. The change I am referring to is happening inside of me, to me, for me, and is aimed at releasing the “me” that has always been here. It has been the “me” that I have kept tightly sealed somewhere deep inside for a very long time.


As this “me” emerges there are, undoubtedly, going to be those around me who are caught off guard, bent a little out of shape, or simply decide they can’t possibly deal with it at all. I have carried a self-resentment for years because I felt the need to keep certain aspects of my personality in a lock-box. I tried hard to be accommodating to the point that people around me felt it was all right to take advantage of my good nature and seeming lack of assertiveness. This invariably sent me to a position of some degree of disadvantage and resultant anger, as people thought I was giving them an open invitation to use me as a doormat and impose their will and philosophy on me. When the anger boiled over, most folks were not comfortable and tended to run for the hills.
It turns out that I actually possess my own will and philosophy; my own thoughts and feelings; my own sense of right and wrong. It turns out that, with the help of a handful of very caring people, I have discovered where I had all this buried, and how to bring it all back to the surface from the depths. These folks have allowed me to discover and acknowledge how, where, and when I got my philosophy, my thoughts, my feelings, my sense of right and wrong, and my ability to weigh things fairly and equally. They allowed me to discover where all that was hidden and that it was all right to fetch it and bring it all to the surface once again. They allowed me to reach back and discover when I had enjoyed these personality attributes to their fullest, and allowed me to accept the idea that it was a good thing to let these attributes see the light of day once again.

With a lot of help and support, I have allowed myself the luxury of becoming clean and sober. I have allowed myself to become free of psychotropic drugs. These newfound freedoms have made it possible to finally assert myself and stand up for what I want and need. I have a new respect for the eighteen, or so, inches around me, which is all I have the ability and right to control. I have let go of the idea that what others think, feel, or do has anything to do with me, what I am able to control. People make their own decisions, and no one else has any real or perceived control over that. Therefore, what anyone may think about me, I have absolutely no control over. What I do have is control over the way I act, react, and conduct my own life, and I am learning that that alone can be a full-time job. With that in mind, I consider myself to be fully employed. I accept the premise that change is good.

 

some ways to demonstrate assertiveness:
 - no more acceptance of rude, bigoted, politically ridiculous, factually inaccurate emails and/or statements to your face
 - no saying yes simply for the reason of “making nice” with other people; if your real answer is no, say no
- immediate vocal disagreement with anything directed at you that you don’t like, or believe in.
- honesty, over trying to smooth over any situation; even if that honesty doesn’t sit well with others
- no expectations of anyone ever agreeing with you on anything; what matters most to you is what you think and feel, not what anyone else thinks, or feels about you.
- You only control your own space; make good use of it
- show empathy when needed; but, not to the point anyone perceives you as weak
- never fear stating who you are, what you think, and how you feel
- tone the anger and aggression down to an assertive level not to be mistaken as a personality flaw to be exploited, or abused